We will celebrate our 12 year anniversary on September 20th. I have enjoyed being with my wife so much. She makes me so happy! And she keeps me humble and laughing. And she has given me two incredible boys.
Well, my youngest son came up to me and said, "Dad, on your anniversary, are you gonna have a baby?" I stuttered. "Wha...what?"
"On your anniversary, are you gonna have a baby?"
I guess he already asked my wife this question, because they all sat around the couch waiting to hear and see my reaction. All I could do was look at my wife with my most dumbfounded look I could possibly muster.
How early do the 'birds and bees' conversations start? MY SON IS FIVE!!!!!! FIVE!!! And am I ready to have these talks?
Lend me your thoughts because I have no off season for learning...Peace and blessings!
Well first I don't think this is actually a birds and bees question, per se. It sounds more like a declaration, albeit through a question, of "I know that married mommies and daddies have babies when they love each other very much. (And that is good thing. He sees his loving happy parents and in his mind, he equates that with a baby. Frankly, I find that beautiful). He did not ask, "are you going to MAKE a baby," and then a follow up of "now how is that done exactly?" I would have simply responded that "no we aren't going to have a baby, because all we need right now is you and your brother ... or something warm and fuzzy like that.
ReplyDeleteRegarding the question of when is a good time to talk about sex with your children, I think the general rule is that it depends on the child. Personally, MY general rule is "early and often."
In your situation, with your wife being the only female in the house, questions about anatomical differences their purpose and function probably don't come up that much. Being the mother of two girls and boy nestled right in the middle, it came up all the time. So whenever a question was asked, I answered it simply. A five year old usually can be satisfied with a simple answer and probably could not process more than that with becoming absolutely repulsed.
Q:Where do babies come from?
A: They are blessings from God in heavan.
Q: How do babies get out of mom's stomach.
A: Sometimes she pushes it out. Sometimes she has to have an operation.
From my own it experience, it seems that in the early yearr, my children were more concerned about how the baby gets out, instead of how it gets in ..... But again, when the "in" question comes, and it will, I suggest giving just enough information to satisfy the immediate query. If they need more information, they will ask more questions.