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My boys are growing up!  They are starting school again and they are more than elated.  They are putting on the final touches of gathering all of their school materials.  We are putting them (or at least trying) in the bed a little earlier to get them accustomed to the schedule.  Homerooms have been assigned and ALL 7, 263 school events have been planned. I've only put in about 3 in my calendar; I've got some work to do, huh?  Back to school night(s), PTA's, play dates and hangouts, meetings, etc.  It could be overwhelming if you think too hard.  Let's not forget that one is starting middle school -- that's a whole other blog.

Mothers are usually involved in their child's life, especially when it comes to their education.  I often times see  fathers very much in tuned with their work and careers.  That is extremely admirable and necessary.  It is important for our children to see us working and providing for our families.  The question I pose to us is this: How often should you (and can you) break from work to involve yourself in your child's events? Here's a better question:  How much more secure do you believe your child would be if they saw dad walk in on one of their events?  

I won't be able to make every event--I can't.  But I am going to ask for some time off in order to see my boys learn and grow. 

How 'bout it dads? Thoughts? I have NOS...

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  1. I definitely agree that it is a great plan to try to make as many events as possible for your boys. I would have loved to see my dad at more of my events as well. It touches you in a different way than when your mom comes. It's extra special because you know he made a point to take off from work, from paying bills, to share an important time with you. That's love.

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