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Let's Not Talk About the Kids!

My wife and I took the time to watch 'Revolutionary Road' the other night.  It was an excellent movie about a young couple facing the challenges of a relatively young marriage.  After the movie, we had a very stirring conversation about what we saw.  What a great conversation!  We both got a lot from it and, more importantly, we got an opportunity to reconnect.  We got a chance to talk about us-not the kids, not work, not school... just us.  We spoke about our marriage, our spiritual walk, dreams, etc.  It was good and needed.


There are so many 'distractions' that take me away from the person whom I love the most-my wife.  Although, I love my boys like no other and will do anything for them, no one else can satisfy me, spur me, encourage me, and love me like she can!  These 'distractions' -jobs, commutes, Facebook, technology, appointments, and yes, even my kids, can be distractions.

I have to (and want to) ensure that I spend time and talk with her.  She needs that; so do I!  I also have to make sure that I make those times sacred.  We call this time our 'Coffee and Conversation'.  I'll be honest, I am guilty of letting these sacred times slip through the cracks.  I am making every effort to ensure that they happen.  Uninterruped, every Friday night at 9 pm, after the kids are generally down for bed.  There, I put it out in the universe!


How do you keep that time with your special someone sacred?  And for that matter, do you have a sacred time?  Challenge yourself to have deep, meaningful conversation.  For whatever reason, this can often times be challenging for men.  Yet, give me some thoughts on how you keep the conversation going.  I'm open.  Besides, I'm in a NOS period...

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  1. Great blog Bassman -- hope to imitate your lead

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  2. We used to schedule time each month to go over our goals, set new ones, discuss finances, and challenge each other to accomplish our goals by a certain time. The last time we did that was Oct 2008. We have, however on occasion gone for walks just to be with each other and talk. I definitely see the importance of setting time aside more consistently like you and your wife are doing because it is beneficial. I'll let you know when we're ready to watch Revolutionary Road. :-)

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